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Back to school with Autism and ADHD

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School started last Thursday for my girls. It is a BIG year for them both for different reasons and I was a little more than nervous.  

Kat is attending her first year at middle school, 6th grade. It’s her first year in a new building in the last 5 years. We went to her well child checkup before school started and she is now officially taller than I am and weighs almost as much.  
The doc asked if we wanted to change her meds (for ADHD) before school and we all agreed that we wanted to see how the first month or so went before changing anything. So far, so good. She’s remembered to have me sign papers, both last Friday and today. She also remembered to bring home her Tupperware bowls from her lunch bag, so I don’t have to be mad at her because I have to buy new containers.  


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Now, Nove.
She is back at the same school as last year. However, the staff has changed some. We had an “informal” meeting before school started to let the staff know how things had gone over the summer and to help bring them up to date on last year’s incidents.  

Her school now has an “autism team“. Okay, not just her school, but our whole county. But, what does that say, really? We are only one county and there are major budget cuts. Budget cuts big enough that we no longer have busing within 2.5 miles of our children’s school, yet we have a brand new team?  
Back to the point.

The resource room teacher from last year was able to educate the new teachers about Nove’s behaviors last year and the huge lack of language and fine motor skills. We all agreed that having a full time para teacher would probably be best if the district could afford to supply one. Nove showed significant improvement in Kindergarten and this summer when she had one to one time with an educator. But, last year in first grade, when she had very little help due to her IEP resources being depleted, she had meltdowns and frustrations beyond what any of us could handle.  

So………… we still have an IEP in September and her 3 year reevaluation coming up, but so far, so good! Her teachers seem to understand her better. This is probably because I understand her better. Last year was frustrating for me as her mother because I didn’t even know how to help her, or what to tell the school.  

My biggest worry now is that she actually learns something. I hope they don’t just write her off and only worry about her not melting down. She really can learn and I hope they don’t forget it.  

Single mother frustrations

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I’m sitting here at close to 6 pm on Sunday. My head is swimming alternately with it feeling like someone poured lead into my right side ear. So, the right side of my head feels very heavy and there is internal pressure and every once in a while my whole head tilts without my telling it to.  

I’m sitting here because the girls’ dad never picked them up. first it was Friday afternoon, then it was early Saturday morning, then it was this morning, and he called about a half hour ago to say he was finally back in town and would be here soon. He went back to truck driving cross country several months ago and it has been a disaster ever since.   Between 3 different companies, no one could get him home when they said they would. He hasn’t been here to help with the girls or give my mom and I a break that we both need.  

I feel a little tiny bit guilty here, because I know there are a ton of other parents out there who do not get a break. But this is about me and my family. they can vent on their own blogs, right? 

  Anyway, as much as it annoys the hell out of me to get screwed out of my weekend plans, it is harder on Nove Mber. She feels her emotions on a much more base level and instead of getting angry or disappointed over him not being  here when he says he will, she just doesn’t want anything to do with him. 

  Can’t blame her. It’s how I feel too. However, I know this is a reaction to the schedule being so chaotic for several months, because before this, she loved going with her dad on the weekends. He was the fun one, the playful one. He got to be super dad. Yeah, that pissed me off too. He got all the fun and I had to be the one with discipline and rules and schedules to meet.   Not fair. and I’m feeling it. and so is she.  

I think I will end this before he gets here and I tear him a new…. well, you know. I’m so angry and hurt for Nove, that I could just cry. Not to mention my own feelings.

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