Have you read the book,Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff–and it’s all small stuff ?
Chapter 8 is only about 1 page long. The information is strait to the point. And…… the point is to do nice stuff without expecting something back. The point is to enjoy the feeling of having done something out of the goodness of your heart.
No bragging. No mentioning it in conversations with friends or family. No listing it on your resume.
“You always feel good when you give to others. Rather than diluting the positive feelings by telling others about your own kindness, by keeping it to yourself you get to retain all the positive feelings.” From Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff–and it’s all small stuff ?
I had to think hard about when I’ve done something out of the pure joy of doing it. Here’s a zig ziglar quote that seems to sum up what my feeling is: ” You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.”
On a daily basis, I help my girls, one with autism, one with ADHD. I do nice things for my man. I’ve done nice things for my ex.
But, if I really dug deep, aren’t most of those acts a form of compensation or in my children’s case, a way to avoid meltdowns? No, not all of them, but I’d say a majority of them of are in some way.
Alas, I had another example from another point of view about doing good, but keeping it a secret to yourself. The thought has flown the nest.
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